Monday, 26 September 2016

What It's Really Like To Have Twins

So the baby days are over, my screaming, hungry, teething, weaning little sh*t machines are now toddlers. There is no point dwelling or re-living those days as my pint size dictators are now little women who know what they want, when they want and they won't hesitate to tell you. I'd attempt to tell you a day in a life of myself - but a stay at home mum with 2 and a half year old twins is never the same day to day.. apart from lack of showers, eating and never knowing where my hair brush is, everything else about my day is always different.

Double trouble they say, you'll have your hands full they tell me, rather you than me they insult me. Until you have twins you can never understand what it is truly like, it is very different to having one, and many will disagree that it is incredibly different to have 2 a 'similar' age. 

From having two screaming babies for night feeds, two to wean, two to potty train and two to battle into bed. Your having to go through all these changes in life with 2 little humans who are generally against change in general! But I don't resent it, in many ways i'm thankful, I know i'm not having any more children as we only wanted 2.. and I've done all those stages all at once. The sleepless nights stage nearly broke me & my boyfriend - yes probably because we had 2 at once but I cringe at the thought of going through it again with 1 baby never mind 2. I couldn't imagine having to potty train one child, while having broken sleep through the night by a newborn. No one chooses to have twins, you cant plan it, but i'm incredibly grateful to be blessed with them and in many ways I believe they would be easier than having 1. They always have each other, they don't struggle to detach from us, you have to be military with multiples so there way no room for fussiness and no patience to let them lead us. As may many singletons too - trust me I don't think we are anything special.

This is just an opinion, of one person, who is happy for her brood to max at 2 children, and is grateful to only have to go through all the different stages once. For other mums, it maybe that they love all the stages and can't wait to do it all again and again. For me, another child would add too much physical, mental and financial strain on the family at the detriment of the twins. I would love another child, I would love to do it all again. It pains me knowing i'll never experience it all again, but my family is so perfect the way it is, I almost tear up thinking about throwing a spanner in the works and breaking up the awesome foursome! 

So many may look and think we have it hard, but the truth is that we actually don't. Most days we would agree we have it easy in fact. It wasn't a traditional start out for either of us; 25 & 26 year old with 2 and a half year old twin girls. Not married, didn't live together - yet here we are in our own home, happy, healthy and still have the rest of our lives in front of us together. 
I feel rich just writing that.